And it's like I get it . But if you're optimizing for happiness and for peace and for equanimity , then you suddenly begin telling the better feeling story based in truth because it's only gonna be a better feeling story , not a fantasy . No , it is not about it .
So that's a huge piece of it . But one of the things I encourage people in a more simplistic way is just notice the people and places and things that allow you to eat and effortlessly and Enjoyably enter a flow state . Often you're unaware of it .
They don't even know it . So notice those activities , people or places that allow you to enter the flow state easily . It might be the beach playing with the puppy , playing with the kids , who knows everybody for everybody , it might be something different .
I had sad , I had seasonal effective disorder without question . And I know that because at a later point in my life when I moved to Miami , I was surprised at how much improved my subjective well-being was , I felt so much better . Like , wow , life is great .
You know , if beauty means a whole lot to you and you have to be more beautiful than other people , then you're always gonna be in a bit of a conundrum . But if happiness is your thing and you recognize that empirically , happiness leads to success and all those other areas that you want , you know , it leads to more money , it leads to a longer life , it leads to a healthier life , it leads to better relationships , then you can make happiness your top goal , then you can kind of drop or like go off the comparison in the competition . I think what's been so enlightening for me , especially the last 10 years living in L A is having amazing opportunities to meet people that others look up to and have all those success boxes checked and , and meet them on a personal level and , and feel the pain that they're going through internally and the struggle and the unhappiness that they have .
