I had sad , I had seasonal effective disorder without question . And I know that because at a later point in my life when I moved to Miami , I was surprised at how much improved my subjective well-being was , I felt so much better . Like , wow , life is great .
I sit there in that space and I stay there and I remain there . And then I , if I need to or want to communicate , I communicate from that , from that place , from that peaceful place . And usually , um I used to say things in a sort of declarative manner and now I'm better off asking questions , ask questions , there's no judgment in the questions , but the questions , they're leading questions often , I'll be honest , right ?
But if you want to really be in that state , that's a state where you're not nearly as self conscious as you'd usually be or time conscious or any of these other things . And so that's a state where really your mind is quieter than all that and you're not being consumed by the competition and the comparison and I encourage them to move in that direction . And so there are little tips and tricks we have to help them get in that state of flow or in the zone .
They're gonna have some times where they slip up and they're going through some turmoil and they may even be on the verge of suicide and depression . How can we be better friends to those people who are going through their struggles ? Oh , beautiful question .
And it's like I get it . But if you're optimizing for happiness and for peace and for equanimity , then you suddenly begin telling the better feeling story based in truth because it's only gonna be a better feeling story , not a fantasy . No , it is not about it .
