Tunes out , you want to do other things , think about other things . In other words , it's a coping mechanism . It's normal .
No , you don't . You got a coping mechanism that's no longer working for you . But it did , it had a function when it first came along .
So remember I talked about those brain circuits of lust and care and rage and uh and , and , and , and seeking and so on one of the brain circuits that we have is described by a very prominent late neuroscientist yak banks is for panic and grief , panic and grief are the normal responses of the young human being or the young animal when care isn't available . So when the parents are stressed , distracted economically or politically or because of their own unresolved trauma or whatever is going on in their lives and they don't respond to the child's distress . They don't pick up the child when they're crying , they make the child be alone .
It drives me nuts because people pretend that anxiety is a disease and I'm like , my God , the world should make you anxious if you're a sensitive introspective person , if you just like looking at the world itself and you , you don't put it in perspective , like the world's , it's filled with anxiety . The anxiety is , it's future problem solving . You're , you're thinking about all the things that can go wrong .
They don't pick up the child when they're crying , they make the child be alone . When the child is upset , the child's panic circuits get activated as they should be . Because when the child's panic circuits get activated , they cry for help .
