When I help this child deal with the whole family . Look at the parental relationship , look at how , what stress is there in your life . Look at how you react to the child .
Look at , do you understand the child's behavior or , or , or the emotions that the child is having or you're just trying to control the child's behaviors ? Look at all that and very often parents will tell me after they've read that book on A DH D is they've totally changed their relationship to their child . The child changes .
So the the most salient feature of the environment that shapes the circuit of the human brain is actually the relationship with the parents . And if the parents are present and emotionally attuned and available child brains develop properly . But the parents are stressed , the child absorbs the stress .
He says in his book , The Developing Mind that the child uses the mature circuits of the adult brain to regulate his own immature , unregulated circuits . So when the adults show up in a calm loving way that the child downloads that into his own nervous system , and then he , he grows up , he , he doesn't , he's not gonna be an infant forever . At some point , he's gonna be a mature adult who knows how to take care of themselves .
So this whole idea and , and , and by the way , if a family comes to me with the A DH D child , I'll say to them what you've got here is a very sensitive child that sensitive child is picking up on all the vibes energies and stresses in your family . When I help this child deal with the whole family . Look at the parental relationship , look at how , what stress is there in your life .
