Yeah . Well , the greatest takeaway is that success doesn't lead to happiness , but happiness does lead to success . And so happiness is not only the greatest success , meaning it's the reason that we want to accomplish , achieve or acquire anything and everything in the world , but it's also it also leads to success , right .
What happened is what happened if you just simply drop telling the story at all and you focus on something else that was at least neutral , if not positive , you would find in 66 days with consistent effort , your brain would make it almost automatic or at least much more effortless in terms of telling that story , more positive story or at least distracting you from the negative story over and over again , it almost becomes a habit , right ? So that's the most important thing is choosing sort of happiness above all else above everybody and everything else . Second , using some form of pattern interrupt or positive reframing .
You should patent that . Um Yeah , I think , you know , a lot of us really do outsource our happiness to the world , to other people , to other things , to other places , events , experiences , and most of us eventually , if you live long enough , you begin to see through the illusion and the promise that the world and other people and other things unintentionally , um unwittingly make right to make this promise that they can make you happy . But if you live long enough , you see through that and you realize that the world can do nothing but break that promise over and over again .
So , yes , we live in a society in a world where fear and guilt and shame and these things are used to influence people and control people in ways that are self serving . Um And so yeah , if you're looking for happiness or peace or love in the world or other people , it will be very short lived . But you and I are two of the happiest people I know and we love to shop .
Second , using some form of pattern interrupt or positive reframing . Um you know , the other opportunity is this is that , you know , at the deepest level , happiness isn't really about thinking all the time . In fact , thinking can be pretty anxiety provoking even when you're telling yourself a better feeling story that's based in truth , even when you're focusing on positive thoughts and positive activities and positive experiences .