But when you , when I started to look at the literature about women who are having affairs and the reasons that they're having affairs and the nature of the affairs , there are things that cropped up like this . Um 79% 1 study found 79% of women fell in love with or became emotionally involved with her affair partner . And to me , this is exactly the opposite of what you'd want if you're trying to pursue that dual mating strategy idea .
Um But it suggests that they um uh forming a long term attachment to this other guy rather than the regular partner . So , here's , here's another one and this may seem like super , super obvious is that women who are unhappy with their regular relationship , either sexually unhappy or generally unhappy with their overall relationship , they're more likely to have affairs . Now .
Um Kind of crazy . Now , in his case , in that case , uh the male motivation for affairs differs on average substantially from the female motivation . Uh And that is that men are uh have this tremendous desire for sexual variety , meaning a variety of sex partners .
What they , these studies just looked at changes in mate preferences . So you're talking about affairs . It's not just changes in may preferences .
Hey , but affairs happen in all cultures or virtually all cultures unless the women are extremely cloistered as they are in some cultures where they're like , they cannot leave the home without a male bodyguard . Um But affairs happen in all cultures . And so uh sure I'd love some .
