Uh , it's , uh , cataclysmic for their relationship . So , you know , it's , in fact , it's one of the leading causes of divorce worldwide across cultures uh is if there's a female infidelity . Um And so , and so the issue is what benefit could be so great to a woman that she's willing to risk all the , all these costs if it's discovered .
But , um , uh , but also women suffer more than men . If an infidelity is discovered , they suffer reputational damage , they suffer , suffer , uh , sometimes social ostracism . Uh , it's , uh , cataclysmic for their relationship .
Um But it suggests that they um uh forming a long term attachment to this other guy rather than the regular partner . So , here's , here's another one and this may seem like super , super obvious is that women who are unhappy with their regular relationship , either sexually unhappy or generally unhappy with their overall relationship , they're more likely to have affairs . Now .
I don't , your grandmother couldn't tell you you're unhappy in the relationship . You were likely to have an affair , but it turns out the same is not true for men . That is , there are at least some studies that show that if you compare men who have affairs with men who don't , there's no difference in how happy they are with the relationship .
Um And it could work if there were no costs . And this is , you know , one of the reasons why men and women um commit Infidelities in , in secret , you know , it's been driven underground . They , people don't go on Twitter and say , hey , I just , hey , I just had an affair on my partner , you know , um uh it's driven underground .
