Perhaps he becomes an alcoholic or a drug addict or loses his job , uh , or , um , or starts , um , abusing her , starts beating her up that , that women use affairs as a mate switching device either to divest herself of her regular partner , um uh or , and , or to trade up in the mating market to someone who's more desirable or to make it easier to transition back into the mating market on the notion on the assumption that she'll be able to find someone more desirable out there . Uh And so , and so there's um at least a fair amount of circumstantial evidence that supports the mate switching hypothesis , like the one I just mentioned , um women uh with 79% of women becoming emotionally involved or falling in love with their partner . This suggests , you know , it's not just , oh , I'm seeking transient attention .
Um 79% 1 study found 79% of women fell in love with or became emotionally involved with her affair partner . And to me , this is exactly the opposite of what you'd want if you're trying to pursue that dual mating strategy idea . You want you , you want to get the good genes and then forget about the guy .
So how would they find that out ? How would they find out if a woman's mate strategies changed ? And if her preference has changed based on ovulation , so they basically get women and then they track them throughout the cycle .
Um But it suggests that they um uh forming a long term attachment to this other guy rather than the regular partner . So , here's , here's another one and this may seem like super , super obvious is that women who are unhappy with their regular relationship , either sexually unhappy or generally unhappy with their overall relationship , they're more likely to have affairs . Now .
But when you , when I started to look at the literature about women who are having affairs and the reasons that they're having affairs and the nature of the affairs , there are things that cropped up like this . Um 79% 1 study found 79% of women fell in love with or became emotionally involved with her affair partner . And to me , this is exactly the opposite of what you'd want if you're trying to pursue that dual mating strategy idea .
