And that changes kind of overnight , right ? And overnight you realize that you're gonna have more and more and more time and a lot of people , women especially , and I hate to gender stereotype , but it is true and it is research focused and based that it happens to more women than not that they give up or delay or postpone however , you know , a career um to raise Children and sometimes they find something while they're having , while they're in the process of raising Children that works for them and sometimes they don't , and I can't tell you how many friends I've had , who have kind of aged out of the parenting , the hardcore parenting and have really gone through like this . I don't want to call it a midlife crisis because that's not what it is , but it's more like a reckoning of , you know , where , where is my life headed ?
And on the one hand that can be really hard and sad because you're not with your kids part of the time . But on the other hand , you're thrown into not being with your kids at all part of the time and during that not being with them , then you get , you literally are on your own . It's not like even , it's not even like when you , it's like a different feeling like I almost can't describe it .
And so , and you have , yeah . So that happened three years ago and I had never even like , you know , there were times when , um , you know , my kids were at school and I had time to myself or there were other , you know , I had time before that but it wasn't until I was divorced where I was like , whoa , this is different . This feels different .
Right ? And on the one hand that can be really hard and sad because you're not with your kids part of the time . But on the other hand , you're thrown into not being with your kids at all part of the time and during that not being with them , then you get , you literally are on your own .
So here's the dirty little secret of divorce that no one talks about you . Parent part time . Right ?
