There's that there's um so we call that sort of uh nature , there's also nurture , right ? We grow up in a society where most folks aren't truly deeply happy from the inside out . And instead they're trying to route their happiness through other pe people , other things , other places , other activities .
And so they unknowingly unwittingly coach us , train us to do the same thing , right ? So we receive all these messages from society and parents and priests and philosophers and poets that kind of encourage us if not compel us to look for happiness in places and people and things where it doesn't exist or it can exist . Um So there's that piece and then of course , we double down because we begin practicing these inherited thoughts and beliefs that we've received from other people , we begin to practice them and we actually sort of wire our brain or rewire in our brain in a way that only deepens uh the unhappiness and the external sort of chasing of things and people and places and activities .
So we receive all these messages from society and parents and priests and philosophers and poets that kind of encourage us if not compel us to look for happiness in places and people and things where it doesn't exist or it can exist . Um So there's that piece and then of course , we double down because we begin practicing these inherited thoughts and beliefs that we've received from other people , we begin to practice them and we actually sort of wire our brain or rewire in our brain in a way that only deepens uh the unhappiness and the external sort of chasing of things and people and places and activities . Um So that's kind of the problem .
But you know , it comes we're born with sort of all these biases , these cognitive biases , kind of confirmation bias , negativity bias , self-serving bias , all these things and some of them can get in the way of our happiness . There's that there's um so we call that sort of uh nature , there's also nurture , right ? We grow up in a society where most folks aren't truly deeply happy from the inside out .
So it's good we want , we , we love that . But you know , it comes we're born with sort of all these biases , these cognitive biases , kind of confirmation bias , negativity bias , self-serving bias , all these things and some of them can get in the way of our happiness . There's that there's um so we call that sort of uh nature , there's also nurture , right ?