I mean , I was um and I'm still not 100% yet , but I'm getting better every day . We talked about affirmations and like looking at yourself , like even putting a picture of like a picture of you as a kid in the mirror and talking to that child and just saying , yeah , like I wasn't ok , but I'm gonna get better every day . And I think , you know , switching up my nutrition , like not drinking coffee , going to like some , some macha maybe , um , because I was having some intense panic attacks , like even driving here , even though it brought me , it brings me so much joy to be here , but it was just , I was by myself and I'm in the car and like all the thoughts start just like flooding me .
And I need to understand what I could provide for myself because as a therapist , I mean , Michelle you myself , we are human and , and I have days that I'm just in the ground crying and II I get myself up one minute at a time , you know , and it's journaling . It's all in the book , mindfulness , meditation , walking , moving my body , listening to good music and just acknowledging my own discomfort at that moment , that's rep parenting is because as a man or a woman , it doesn't matter our caregivers , my mom , your mom , I'm not judging anybody because they knew what they knew and we are here to just embrace the change and be the change . And II , I tell my clients , you know what , it's ok for you to fall apart , but it's not ok for you to wait for people to come put you back together .
Now I know when I'm hungry , I know when I feel unloved , I know when I'm tired . So you and I and everybody else , the whole purpose is become your own wise , loving parent , take care of your own basic needs and what is a basic need we all have as a human to be seen to be loved , to be understood , not by others by ourselves . First , it comes from us .
And there are tools in this book that could help anybody . So if I'm hearing this right , it's like you want to become aware of the bleeding within yourself because once you have the awareness , then it's now you can take care of it definitely consciousness , awareness , acknowledgement and then making basic choices , like nurturing your inner child that needs help because sometimes we could be just really , really , really tired . We just need to take a nap .
You would just say no , no , no , no , no , no . Don't be so hard on yourself . It's OK .
