There's nothing but darkness . So helping people move forward , take action and be able to get that perspective , detach and get outside themselves , get outside their own heads . You know , Tim Ferris said , get out of your head , get into your body .
But you in that state , you literally cannot see anything but the darkness of the storm . And that's what's so scary about when people enter that mode is , you can look , I can look at it from the outside and be like Andrew , you just got to move like 4 ft forward and you're gonna be through this thing and yet you're , you , you might hear me say that and you go , no , Jocko , I'm looking ahead . There's nothing but darkness .
Being able to take a step back detach and see the bigger picture to me is the true superpower of life of life . And it's , it's a lot harder than it sounds .
You're right man , that , that girl , she , she wasn't who I really thought she was . I should move on . Yes .
But easier said than done . And that's one of the biggest challenges I think that , that we have as friends and in parents and uh teammates is helping people learn to detach , learn to see the bigger picture , learn to see that the , the problem that you have that your whole world is actually not that big of a deal . You know , when I wrote , I've written a bunch of kids books and one of the things that triggered me to write kids books is realizing that , you know , one day my daughter came home , it's my oldest daughter and she came home from school and she's like I , she says , I'm stupid .