So ultimately , they're one and the same . Now , the challenge with most of us in the opportunity is that we can found relationships with love . And so we think of love often , first and foremost as a romantic relationship .
It was so fresh and sexy and alive when we first got in and now it's stale where it's kind of like going to a room , you know , and the air is fresh there and you close the windows and you close the doors and you lock the doors because you're trying to keep all this fresh air in and very quickly that fresh , sexy , alive air or love becomes stale . And that's part of the challenge with love and relationships is that instead of sort of getting into , let's say a quote unquote traditional relationship in order to share the joy and the peace and the love that you found within yourself with the other . We do just the opposite of that .
I think that's so important . I have come to see that over so many relationships because that you can't change either really . You know ?
So we know that doesn't work . You know , marriage relationships don't solve your feelings or experience of lack with respect to peace , love or happiness . And if you can't sort of address it at the source and make a commitment to yourself , to be at peace , to be happy and to be loving because it feels so good and without an expectation of reciprocity reward .
Oh , you know , it's interesting , uh , you know , 20 years ago when I became like a happiness coach , I just assumed that people would call me or email me or DM me because they wanted to be happy . But I quickly was disabused of that notion because most people are reaching out to me , were reaching out because they were having trouble with relationships . Like either they weren't in one or they were in a very unhappy one .
